Step 1. – Recognising stress
You might think it’s easy to recognise stress both in yourself and others, but sometimes it can be difficult to pinpoint, especially if it’s a fairly constant state. Here are some of the warning signs that stress could be becoming a problem. Clearly, some of the symptoms on this list are severe, and if you have concerns you should seek appropriate medical help.
Step 2. – Understanding stress
When you are experiencing stress, it can be helpful to take a step back and review what is happening in your life, what changes have taken place for you over the last few months and who is putting pressure on you. It is also important to check out how you are feeling about yourself, and how much pressure you are putting yourself under to achieve and complete everything.
There are times when we can’t control what is happening to us and stress is an inevitable consequence. At these times you need to introduce some healthy habits to manage yourself through the situation.
Step 3. Coping with stress
There are some actions and activities that you can do on a regular basis to balance the unpleasant consequences of stress. It is important that you identify healthy habits that work for you and your lifestyle. You might, for example:
Talking and Off-loading
One of the worst things to do when you are feeling stressed is to bottle it up. It may be hard to imagine how it can be helpful to talk to anyone, as you feel so out of control that once you start to talk you might not be able to stop. However, talking in a trusting, confidential relationship is helpful. Off-loading destructive, circular thoughts and feelings will help you feel calmer and more in control. It may be hard at first to pick up the phone or start the conversation, but this challenge to make the first move, to describe what is happening in your inner world and to put your thoughts and feelings into words will help you apply logic, context and rationale to your stress. Once you can talk and off-load, you can begin to think about self-help and solutions. You could talk to a friend, family member, colleague or even call a helpline, such as Mind-Matter’s Resilience Support Line, where you can speak to fully qualified counsellors 24/7.
Talking about your stress can help in other ways too, it can:
Source adapted from: Validium